OMG, who knew that it would take all afternoon to debate the merits of same-sex marriage? Okay, I guess if you weren’t liberal like me, and if you didn’t believe being gay was genetic, and if you believed that God thought same-sex love was an abomination, you would actually want several years to argue your case. And, yesterday in the Senate chamber of the state of Delaware, those arguing against voting for a “genderless” marriage law probably wanted days and days to convince Senators to vote “No.”
I have been involved in advocating for LGBT rights for over four years now. I’m straight and in a heterosexual marriage so it isn’t a natural for me to be so involved. However, a relative of mine is the “T” in that mouthful of alphabet letters attributed to the “Gay” population, and so it started. At first my involvement was rather benign, just attending a rally or meeting here or there. Then I got more involved in an Episcopal organization that supports LGBT folks called appropriately, Integrity. The name was taken from Psalm 84:11 which reads:
No Good thing will the Lord withhold from those who walk with integrity.
I like to think that we all strive to walk with integrity, and once upon a time, in a mind-set far, far away, I was naïve enough to think that everyone did walk with integrity. My involvement in the LGBT community and their journey in living a life full of dignity and integrity, without labels, without fear of discrimination, and with full and equal rights in this great country has led me to understand otherwise.
For some reason it never occurred to me that same-sex couples would want to get “married.” They never did so far as I knew. And why now, when so many heterosexual couples are simply living together and eschewing marriage altogether. What I didn’t realize, and what my journey with them through Integrity has taught me, is that they never had that choice. Marry or not marry.
Of course, then in 1992, I believe, some idiot decided that marriage should only be between a man and a woman. I guess that made sense to them since only men and women had married up to that point. The law was called DOMA – Defense of Marriage Act. Maybe it was promulgated because a male-male, or female-female couple asked to be married. I don’t admit to knowing all the reasons why DOMA came to be, I only know that it is wrong. Homosexual men and Lesbian women, or any of the other LGBT community, are as equal as any heterosexual person. We are all born the same way, look the same way, are defined by our DNA, and we all love the same. We should all be treated the same way. Period. No debate. DOMA must be repealed, and God willing, it will be in June of this year.
And, my dear friends, that is why I was in Legislative Hall last week to support the historic vote to make my state the 11th state in the nation to approve same-sex, or genderless, marriage. Marriage signifies a commitment to love and honor and care for the person you love. Marriage also, at the federal level, conveys upon a married couple some 1138 privileges such as filing joint tax returns, inheritance rights, and so many others it would take too much space to list, but you can find them all HERE.
Bible Thumpers, as I like to call them because they thump on the Bible and pick and choose verses that suit their cause, call our LGBT friends an “abomination.” A name culled from a couple of mis-interpreted passages in the Christian Holy Bible. These folks do not walk with integrity. They do not respect the dignity and right of every human being. Not a single one of God’s creation is an “abomination.” None. Nada. No One. We are all created equal. Many don’t believe that yet, and there are still too many people experiencing discrimination.
Marriage equality, is only one step in a long climb up the staircase of equality for each and every one of God’s children. . My prayer is that someday on this fragile planet earth we call our home, we will reach the top of that staircase and there will be full equality for every human being. Only then will all people truly walk with integrity.